Soul Vision by Dieter Duhm

SOUL VISION

FOR A FUTURE WITHOUT WAR
By Dr. Dieter Duhm

To all friends worldwide!

We all originate in light, and of light we are made. In the light-centre of the world, we see the unity of all beings. The path of global healing could be to reconnect ourselves – our thoughts, our bodies, our homes – with the light. To do this we need to develop forms of living which allow deep trust to arise. Light flows through the channel of trust. Trust between humans, trust between the genders, trust between humans and animals and all natural beings; trust and the feeling of being at home in the world.

This work is not easy as we all have a history of thousands of years of war, violence and banishment. This history cloaks the Earth today like a traumatic film. A collective shadow of fear and mistrust lies in the soul of contemporary humankind. To transform the hologram of fear and violence into a hologram of love, we have been working for many years to develop ways of living together in which we can collectively experience trust and solidarity. Today’s mainstream visions of the future deal with material issues and ignore the inner issues.

The Mars project, on which approximately 4000 scientists and engineers are working, demonstrates the vastness of the technical visions and possibilities. But what will happen if the project succeeds? Humans will export their misery in love, their fear and their war-thoughts, to Mars. The civilisation established there would probably soon look as bad as the one here on Earth. Utopian plans of this kind ignore the inner core of the problem. We do not suffer from too little technology, but from a worldwide loss of trust and home for the soul. Humankind has lost its anchor. Hardly any love-couple can maintain the joy with which they once met. More people die each day because of the destruction of love than die in traffic accidents. Not to mention the fate of the children! Violence arises where love is not received. All war in the world is a result of the inner fields of conflict in human beings. The fundamental crisis area of our time is the relationship between humans. Continue reading

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Kelly Bryson speaks on Nonviolent Communication and the Tango

When you communicate do you create a confusing tangle or dance a beautiful tango?

Here I give a presentation at the Mello Center about the relationship between Tango and Nonviolent Communication.

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eVOLUTIONARY cOMMUNITY bUILDING

*Duhm draws from his experience of actually creating super successful large politically powerful, eco villages for over 40 years in Europe.  I am not suggesting we move into intentional communities, but I do believe we can learn from the successful ones, how to be more harmonious, powerful, and nurturing.  I believe the NVC networks and communities could benefit greatly from Duhm’s experience and  perspective on the nature and role of communities or networks in the evolution of humanity and social change.  I have found great genius in the tools and group process/practices emerging from this experimental cultures like The Zegg Forum, which is the foundation for growth, community conflict resolution, inspiration, trust, transparency and energetic communion for many intentional communities and other organizations in Europe.   The Zegg Forum was developed over many years to address the many archetypal issues that emerge in the process of growing a large healthy organization within a domination culture.  They have been particularly successful in developing tools for transformation, trust and transparency in the taboo, and therefore powerful and controlling areas of creative self expression, love, power, sex, and money.  It is their belief that when these aspects are not transparent, flowing and healthy they create drama, stuck-ness, politicking, competition, low enthusiasm, poor financial flow and infighting.  They also have a great reputation with G.E.N. (Global Eco-village Network) for their consciousness and models for SexPeace, i.e. harmony and trust between men and women, which is a prerequisite for a healthy organization or community. (see Zegg.de, Tamera.org)

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Trust Based Relationships, continued

Trust Based Relationship Values
&. Tradition Based Relationship Values
Needs are not compromised Sacrifice and Compromise Valued
Insists on having both Freedom & Security Sacrifices Freedom for Security
Communication open to trusted community Communication open only to nuclear family
Sexual needs and behavior  consciously negotiated
to a win/win
Sexual needs and behavior determined via rolls
Consensual Morality is guide Conventional Morality is guide
Power With thru connecting communication Power Over thru intimidation and emotional coercion
Great value place on communication/negotiation Great Value place on knowing and doing the right thing – (so communication less needed)
Transparency trusted and valued Protecting partner from being triggered valued
Security comes via trust in oneself, other & nature Security comes via control of environment
Natural Giving only from the Heart Giving from Duty, Obligation, Roles, Sacrifice
Diversity of Sexual Desire/Expression Celebrated etc Sex after marriage, lights out, Man on top
Focus on Personal Growth Focus on Survival and being good
Non Possessiveness Possessive
Jealousy seen as a need for support Jealousy seen as a proof and part of Love
No Shoulds or have to’s Many Shoulds and have to’s
Life and all beings held as Sacred Mankind seen as having Dominion over Nature
God seen as equally loving all living beings God seen as Jealous, w/ certain people held as the chosen
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Unconditional Parenting through NVC

Unconditional Parenting through NVC:
Kelly shares his own family rule: No one allowed to give in.
‘Thanks’, and ‘No’ is ok by the way

Unconditional Parenting through NVC

interviewed by Stephanie Bachmann Mattei of NVC Academy

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Trust Based Relationships

Below is a comparison list of relationship values.  I am comparing Trust Based Relationship Values in contrast with Tradition Based Relationship Values, because consciousness loves contrast and the differences become more distinct when compared.  This is my own list and attempt to clarify my relationship values.  I hope this helps you in your process, and please feel free to comment below, although I may not answer each individually.

enjoy,
Kelly

Trust Based Relationship Values
vs.
Tradition Based Relationship Values
God is Secure, all loving, and a super Natural Earthy Divine Intelligence God is insecure, vengeful, angry, male
Present oriented Future and Past Oriented
Equity in time getting listened to more Dominate (historically male) gets heard
Living arrangement created to serve needs Assumed nuclear family single home
Fidelity includes transparency about Exclusivity Erotic inner world Fidelity is only about Sexual
Experimentation and evolution of Relationship valued more Security and Homeostasis valued
No one is allowed to give in, only giving to is valued of giving Frequent struggle of the “Fairness”
Love is a freely given Gift Love is Expected
Love is Free Love is Earned
Celebrates individual incomparableness Strives to be treated as Special Number One
True Celebration of what each one brings to the union joyfully Regret for the sacrifice one is making for relationship. (Bachelor Party to say goodbye to freedom and forbidden fruit)
Unconditional love Conditional Love
Love each other’s free will Threatened by, or competitive with, other’s free will
Sex as communion w/Cosmos Sex as Spousal Duty
Seeks expansion/growth in both Stays small to not threaten partner
Trusts in Universe Trusts in the Relationship
Values of restorative Justice Values retributive Justice
Frequently sits w/the unknown Avoids anxiety of unknown thru business, and following rules and roles
Sex is seen as transformative & transcendent for Spiritual Development and Bonding Purposes Sex is for Release
Community Empathize in Empowering Ways Community Colludes in Disempowering ways
Sex is all Chakra Focused Sex is genitally focused (2nd Chakra)

Copyright: Kelly Bryson MFT

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Yvonne

YvonneYvonne is a certified Cuddle Partyâ„¢ Facilitator. Since 2006, Yvonne has been bringing the Cuddle Party workshop to the Bay Area. Yvonne is also a student of and non-certified NVC teacher. She teaches introductory and 5-week intensives in NVC to private groups and at conferences around Northern California.

Yvonne also has a coaching practice, The Playful Circle, in which she supports her clients in playful personal growth, skillful communication, empowered euthenics, understanding intimacy, healthy relationships, boundaries & self-trust, experiential freedom, self-care & self-loyalty. Yvonne lives in Santa Clara.

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Phil Caylor

Phil CaylorSince the 1960’s Phil Caylor has been studying and practicing yoga and began practicing and teaching qi gong in the early 1970’s. In 1971 he opened his massage practice in Santa Cruz and went on to found the first massage school in Santa Cruz in 1977, the Holistic Health Institute of Santa Cruz. Here yoga and qi gong were part of the core of the school as well as a part of his working with individual clients.  Since 1988 Phil has been a licensed acupuncturist and was in the first class at Five Branches University of Traditional Chinese Medicine.

Phil Caylor has been trained in NLP, EFT, Medical Qi Gong and many stress reduction methods. For the last two years he has been developing, teaching, and integrating  yoga, qi gong and personal and spiritual growth into what is now called Evolutionary Yoga.

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Fred Burks

Fred BurksFred Burks has been deeply dedicated to spiritual growth and transformation for his entire adult life. He became interested in tantra and energy work over 15 years ago, and has facilitated many engaging, heart-centered workshops around the country helping people to open to the limitless sources of transformative energy available within themselves and others. He was a key founder of the sex and spirit based Sacred Connections community in the SF Bay Area and is a respected spiritual activist on the Internet. See www.peerservice.org for the inspiring and transformational websites he manages.

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Carole Golden

Carole GoldenCarole has had a stellar career as a professional body worker for over 20 years. Trained as a Reiki master, in Feldenkriest, ortho-bionomy, and much more, Carole loves to share her gift of magical touch and invite others to open to learning how to connect their heart with their touch.

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