| Trust Based Relationship Values |
&. | Tradition Based Relationship Values |
| Needs are not compromised | Sacrifice and Compromise Valued | |
| Insists on having both Freedom & Security | Sacrifices Freedom for Security | |
| Communication open to trusted community | Communication open only to nuclear family | |
| Sexual needs and behavior consciously negotiated to a win/win |
Sexual needs and behavior determined via rolls | |
| Consensual Morality is guide | Conventional Morality is guide | |
| Power With thru connecting communication | Power Over thru intimidation and emotional coercion | |
| Great value place on communication/negotiation | Great Value place on knowing and doing the right thing – (so communication less needed) | |
| Transparency trusted and valued | Protecting partner from being triggered valued | |
| Security comes via trust in oneself, other & nature | Security comes via control of environment | |
| Natural Giving only from the Heart | Giving from Duty, Obligation, Roles, Sacrifice | |
| Diversity of Sexual Desire/Expression Celebrated etc | Sex after marriage, lights out, Man on top | |
| Focus on Personal Growth | Focus on Survival and being good | |
| Non Possessiveness | Possessive | |
| Jealousy seen as a need for support | Jealousy seen as a proof and part of Love | |
| No Shoulds or have to’s | Many Shoulds and have to’s | |
| Life and all beings held as Sacred | Mankind seen as having Dominion over Nature | |
| God seen as equally loving all living beings | God seen as Jealous, w/ certain people held as the chosen |
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