Welcome to the website for Kelly Bryson MA, MFT.
In it you will find a Cornucopia of information about Nonviolent Communication (sm), including a calendar of local classes and presentations, a way to order books & compact discs, and info about presentations or trainings for your business, church or organization. Kelly Bryson MA, MFT is a licensed psychotherapist and authorized trainer for the international Center for Nonviolent Communication (a nonprofit organization).
Included here are Kelly's speaking topics, his new best selling book "Don't Be Nice, Be Real. Balancing Passion for Self with Compassion for Others. A Handbook to Compassionate Communication", and an anthology Kelly contributed to: "The Marriage of Sex and Spirit: Relationship at the Heart of Conscious Evolution" (With Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson, John Gray, John Bradshaw, Wayne Dyer, Thich Nhat Hanh, Riane Eisler, Barbara Marx Hubbard has been voted "Best Health / Sexuality Book" in the Best Books 2006 National Book Awards.)
You will also find testimonials about his work, free original articles like "Don't pay the Price of being Nice", poems like "The Places you could go if you weren't afraid of No", list of organizations served, his resume and biography.
Kelly is now a part of Nonviolent Communication Santa Cruz, NVCSC. See our website at www.NVCSantaCruz.org
Below is my blog where I am beginning to publish old and new content I'd like to share with you!
At the core of the tortured soul is often what we call issue number one: sex, love and partnership. Particularly
here, new visions have to be seen, new icons have to be created and new information has to enter the human
organism. There can be no peace on Earth as long as there is war in love. The old picture of couplehood and
marriage was too small to withstand the immense storms of the World-Power of Eros. Today we see the
1)The noun “Geist” (adj. “geistic”) is used throughout this text to better reflect the notion of “intellect, spirit and soul” as expressed in this German term.
outlines of a new erotic culture which is able to contain more freedom and more truth. It is not about
ideological decisions between monogamy and polygamy, but rather about truth and trust in love and about
*Duhm draws from his experience of actually creating super successful large politically powerful, eco villages for over 40 years in Europe. I am not suggesting we move into intentional communities, but I do believe we can learn from the successful ones, how to be more harmonious, powerful, and nurturing. I believe the NVC networks and communities could benefit greatly from Duhm’s experience and perspective on the nature and role of communities or networks in the evolution of humanity and social change. I have found great genius in the tools and group process/practices emerging from this experimental cultures like The Zegg Forum, which is the foundation for growth, community conflict resolution, inspiration, trust, transparency and energetic communion for many intentional communities and other organizations in Europe. The Zegg Forum was developed over many years to address the many archetypal issues that emerge in the process of growing a large healthy organization within a domination culture. They have been particularly successful in developing tools for transformation, trust and transparency in the taboo, and therefore powerful and controlling areas of creative self expression, love, power, sex, and money. It is their belief that when these aspects are not transparent, flowing and healthy they create drama, stuck-ness, politicking, competition, low enthusiasm, poor financial flow and infighting. They also have a great reputation with G.E.N. (Global Eco-village Network) for their consciousness and models for SexPeace, i.e. harmony and trust between men and women, which is a prerequisite for a healthy organization or community. (see Zegg.de, Tamera.org)
Below is a comparison list of relationship values. I am comparing Trust Based Relationship Values in contrast with Tradition Based Relationship Values, because consciousness loves contrast and the differences become more distinct when compared. This is my own list and attempt to clarify my relationship values. I hope this helps you in your process, and please feel free to comment below, although I may not answer each individually.
enjoy,
Kelly
Trust Based Relationship Values
vs.
Tradition Based Relationship Values
God is Secure, all loving, and a super Natural Earthy Divine Intelligence
God is insecure, vengeful, angry, male
Present oriented
Future and Past Oriented
Equity in time getting listened to more
Dominate (historically male) gets heard
Living arrangement created to serve needs
Assumed nuclear family single home
Fidelity includes transparency about Exclusivity Erotic inner world
Fidelity is only about Sexual
Experimentation and evolution of Relationship valued more
Security and Homeostasis valued
No one is allowed to give in, only giving to is valued of giving
Frequent struggle of the “Fairness”
Love is a freely given Gift
Love is Expected
Love is Free
Love is Earned
Celebrates individual incomparableness
Strives to be treated as Special Number One
True Celebration of what each one brings to the union joyfully
Regret for the sacrifice one is making for relationship. (Bachelor Party to say goodbye to freedom and forbidden fruit)
Unconditional love
Conditional Love
Love each other’s free will
Threatened by, or competitive with, other’s free will
Sex as communion w/Cosmos
Sex as Spousal Duty
Seeks expansion/growth in both
Stays small to not threaten partner
Trusts in Universe
Trusts in the Relationship
Values of restorative Justice
Values retributive Justice
Frequently sits w/the unknown
Avoids anxiety of unknown thru business, and following rules and roles
Sex is seen as transformative & transcendent for Spiritual Development and Bonding Purposes